Reality vs Positivity

One of the most common things I hear from people, which is really hard for me to hear is... "it will work if your husband wants it to." I know that this statement is true, but maybe it is the control freak in me coming out that hurts when people say this. I choose to stay hopeful, but when I hear statements like this it is as though a little piece of my hope is taken away. I know we both have to be depending on God and growing closer to God TOGETHER in order for this to work.

The odd thing is that when I first found out I had all the hope in the world, but my husband did not. He did not know if this was going to work out or not. I was the one pushing forward, begging to give it a chance and saying that I would not give up. Now you are probably thinking "what is so odd with that?" Well in society today I am taught that he should be the one begging and he should be the one working hard. I was conflicted by this. Then I realized that it is not one or the other person who should be working harder than the other or who should be entitled to the role of coasting along, we both have to work hard together at it. Therefore when people say to me "It will work if your husband wants it to" it puts doubt in my mind that no matter how hard I am working, or how hard we are working together now, one day if he decides it is too much work that's it. Due to this I get conflicted by being positive and looking forward and thinking that we can make it through it and reality which is saying I only can control my actions and that my husband can decide that it is too much work and there is nothing I can do about it.

I do choose hope and positivity but know I can't dismiss reality. "Let us hold firmly to the hope we confessed, because we trust God to do what he promised." Hebrews 10:23 I know I can not refute the word of God and that is a daily comfort and reassurance to me. I also look at the amazing direction my marriage is going in and choose to be positive. My husband tells me he loves me everyday, he puts is arm around me, he kisses me first and she has a smile I have not seen in a long time when he looks at me. These things I can not look past and I am happy for that and thank God daily. My husband and I have also been praying every night together, which is something that has not happened in a long time. God is amazing and I pray that he helps me to focus on his power, blessings and promises for my life and marriage, because the only thing I can do is live for today.